Everyone has heard of the terrible twos but not everyone realizes that they may as well be called the terrible threes. 3 year old behavior problems really aren’t that uncommon. In this article, I will talk about a couple of important things to keep in mind when trying to “tame” your rambunctious toddler and regain a bit of your sanity.
Firstly, you can actually be thankful that any behavior issues with your toddler are happening at this age as at least now she can communicate with you a lot more effectively than when she was 2. Even if your child isn’t yet talking in complete sentences, they are still much more communicative about what they want and will try especially hard to get that across to you.
Take the opportunity to reason with your child and work through any difficult issues. For example, it’s quite common for a 3 year old to want to do everything himself.
As long as this isn’t something dangerous, it’s fine to let me them build their confidence. Just be ready to react in situations where he wants to do something himself that he really shouldn’t. If it’s a simple matter of your child wanting to put on her own shoes, it really isn’t an issue. However, if she’s wanting to flip the steaks over on the grill – we have a problem!
The second important point is to talk about how short the attention span is of a 3 year old. They will repeatedly try the same things over and over because they don’t yet understand the concept of cause and effect.
Knowing this you can be better prepared to reward the good behaviors and to try to ignore the bad as much as you can. As I mentioned earlier, this isn’t always possible if it’s a dangerous activity of any kind but the important thing is to not inadvertently reward bad 3 year old behavior problems by giving them too much attention.