Aggressive body language whether it be passive or combative is never pleasant to be around, especially if you are the person on the receiving end. And while some people deal with angst and frustration better than others, no matter how mature or evolved we think we are, we have all participated in, or being aggressive in nature at some point in our lives.
Being human, anger is a very normal and to an extent a healthy human emotion when expressed in moderation. However it’s when a seemingly small irritation explodes in to a much larger fierce rage that not only are we tested on how to control it but also how to deal with it if someone you know well is using it to intimidate you.
Firstly it is important to recognize that aggressive body language does not have to include physical contact, but can comprise of other methods of intimidation that are just as menacing and inappropriate. Aggressive body language examples can include:
– Aggravated face expressions such as deep frowning, pursed lips, sneers and snarls. Intense eyes used to stare you out cause deep intimidation
– Using intimidation by invading someone’s personal space, touching or poking, or shoving them unnecessarily.
– Using insulting or threatening gestures, daring an attack, or making sudden movements to catch their opponent off guard.
You don’t have to study body language psychology to know that aggressive body language is not acceptable to most people and although it may appear that it comes from a position of strength, such behaviour is in fact a definite indication that the person carrying it out does not have the inner strength, communication or people skills to deal with their anger issues and personal problems appropriately. If you know someone who is like this, or you know yourself that you struggle with dealing with aggression, the first step is to acknowledge that it’s a problem and then do something about it.
If you find yourself in a situation where someone is expressing aggressive body language, in such a state of anger or frustration one of the better ways to deal with it is to start communicating with body language or your own. If the person you are dealing with is so caught up in their aggression, often the use of sensible calm words might help, but may not be enough to cool the situation down.
Instead, try to remain calm but do not shy away from what is going on. Let them know that you are not afraid of them, stand tall and stand your ground. By remaining strong by using non- aggressive body language you may be able to diffuse the situation and move on calmly, as the better person.
If you yourself are the person who is struggling to control their aggression then it’s important to firstly acknowledge the problem. During an altercation try to remove yourself from the situation and take a breather, or seek guidance from a neutral friend or if required seek the help from a counselor or someone you feel comfortable with.
Aggressive body language can make you feel powerful in control but ultimately using such tactics can cause you and those around you even more distress and unhappiness.