Financial Domination, though often misunderstood, is both a valid fetish and a very powerful form of Power Exchange. It is often practiced on the fringes of the BDSM community.
To have a fetish of being financially controlled by a powerful Domme is in some ways similar to having a pantyhose or foot fetish; just that the object of the fetish is money instead of feet or an article of clothing. The individuals who participate in the fetish usually get excitement and in cases even arousal out of their fetish play; just as is the case in a number of other sexual fetishes. In cases of Financial Domination this excitement usually occurs when the slave gives money to the Owner; feeling powerless under Her control. In most cases the man will get an intense rush of excitement both when thinking of giving money to a Domme and when he gives Tributes. This excitement can last even past that point, lasting days after engaging in this fetish.
I say She and he, because usually the giver is a male, the receiver is a Female. While there are cases of Male Dominants participating in the fetish; it is extremely rare. Just like foot fetishes the Financial Domination Fetish is one where Females are usually considered superior; thus you would rarely find a woman serving a man in this manner.
The payment given is called a Tribute; and can be anywhere from around fifty dollars when strangers first meet to several thousand dollars as can be the case in well established relationships. Just like other Mistress/slave relationships, some Financial Dominants will form strong bonds with those who serve them over a long period of time. However, these relationships will be very platonic. While Financial Domination is a sexually charged fetish, that arouses and teases, most Dommes will not have any sex with their slaves, just as a Professional Dominatrix would not with Her clients.
Women that are participating in this Fetish are called Princesses, Queens and even Goddesses. Not only money is exchanged in this Power Exchange, in many cases gifts are given as well; which are usually purchased off a Wish list. Gifts are so popular because there is a heavy emphasis on spoiling and pampering the Female Dominant. Allowing the Lady to live a life of absolute luxury while the male struggles and suffers in many ways for Her is often a big part of Financial Domination. Time and time again he must surrender and give up, so She can live above Her means. There is a large contrast between how Owner and slave live within this fetish, unlike other BDSM relationships where there is more blending between the lifestyles of the two. After all, in Financial Domination She is a Queen and Goddess, and he is Her slave. Some Ladies specialize in ruination of the slaves, while others drain more conservatively and with care, knowing that a completely ruined slave is useless. However, the sheer amount of men who fantasize about being ruined by a beautiful and powerful Woman is staggering; however, it is to be kept in mind that for most men, it is only the fantasy of this that appeals to them, not the reality. Only in rare cases does one actually need and crave the reality of ruination.
This brings me to the next point. Those men who are into the fetish usually crave a fair amount of humiliation and exploitation; some prefer heavy forms of Domination that includes being ruined, while others like things mild and prefer to just spoil and enhance the life of their Lady; perhaps worshipping Her a little on the side. Most of the men participating in the fetish like to be called humiliating names such as piggy, pay pet, cash cow and even more degrading names. Some even like objectification and being ignored for days on end by their Domme. The relationships from the outside may not seem to have any sort of mercy or love attached to them, though some Dommes fiercely care for their pay pets; especially those who are with them long term.
Financial Domination is Power Exchange where the slave gives up his power and gives it to his Lady by showering Her with both money and gifts. After all, can it be hard to see how this could be such a strong form of power exchange? Money is the ultimate power in today’s society and most people consider a man’s worth to be tied up in his possessions and how much money he has. The less a man owns, the more shame and humility he feels; this is something that society has engrained in everyone’s brains. For many reasons money is the single best vehicle to accomplish fulfilling the desires of a slave. The slave gives up his money and possessions, thus becoming more vulnerable, and the Lady becomes more powerful through acquiring riches and material belongings. Most of those who participate in Financial Domination have both a strong money fetish, and many men who are into serving financially or being financially exploited also crave humiliation; in cases intense humiliation.
While most Financial Domination is practiced solely online; though a few individuals have been known to do it in Real Time too; in the forms of money exploitation, shopping sprees and various forms of humiliation. Face to face Financial Domination is very rare. Because it is mostly practiced online there is a great deal of individuals who get into the fetish merely for fast cash, and thus there has been a great deal of “fake” individuals getting involved on the scene lately; especially among the Ladies. This is unfortunate, but sadly a case in many things where the internet is the main medium.
This is a very dynamic fetish, but it is commonly misunderstood. One has to understand that everyone is wired differently, and human sexuality is not a case of black and white. We come in all different colors and we all like different things. While you may never understand Financial Domination completely, I hope my article helped you understand it better.
Goddess Anja Aurora