Are you having trouble dealing with your wife’s sexual past, and now it’s really starting to affect your marriage in a negative way?
Believe me, you’re certainly not alone in this, and I had trouble with this myself in fact, but there are things that you can do to help you get through these feelings.
The marriage advice in this article will help you potentially save the marriage from anymore damage than this has already caused…
Why You’re Having Trouble With Your Wife’s Sexual Past…
One of the most difficult things for a man to overcome is the thoughts of his wife being sexual with someone else, even if it was way back in the past. It’s just one of those things that we as men don’t take too kindly too.
It’s basically in our genes to be this way. We’re wired to be territorial and well…having sex with our wives is the ultimate treading on our territory I guess you could say.
But it doesn’t have to ruin our marriage and there are ways that we can deal with it where it won’t necessarily damage our marriage.
The Biggest Mistake that Most Men Make (Including Me) That You Shouldn’t…
So today’s your lucky day because you get to learn from my mistake(s). You see I was a giant pain in my wife’s butt when it came to this problem. I would constantly make comments and harp on the fact that she had been with other people in the past, and constantly made the mistake of asking way to many questions than I really wanted the answers to.
Don’t do that. I understand that you have this burning desire telling you that you NEED to know. But you really don’t. You know the saying, what they don’t know won’t hurt them…well this is the case. What you don’t know can’t hurt you.
You see it doesn’t really matter in the grand scheme of things, and one thing that you need to learn now about marriage and about life in general is that no matter what, you can’t change the past…and you certainly can’t change your wife’s past.
Not only that…but the last thing that you want to do is make your wife feel terrible about experiences that she had in life. Those are her own deep personal experiences that she may have thoroughly enjoyed, and deserves to have been able to enjoy them.
It’s hard I know if you’re someone who’s bothered by these things. Frankly some guys aren’t. Some guys don’t care…and those people don’t understand why it bothers you so much, but when it does it really does.
The best marriage advice I could give you right now for the short term is that you need to enjoy your wife for the person that she is today. You need to respect and admire her for all of those great traits that you focused on before you knew anything about her past, no matter what the past was.