Marriage requires work if you want a good one.
But the unfortunate thing is that most people don’t realize how much work it really takes. So when tough times hit, they either run to divorce court or try to navigate blindly through and become miserable, bitter, and resentful during the process.
With this being said, as women we play a major role in making the marriage relationship work.
While your husband has a responsibility as well, you can only be responsible for what you can do.
And when it comes to handling your marriage problems, your approach often dictates the outcome of your relationship. In fact, the way you deal with your problems in marriage depends on what type of wife you decide to be.
There are 3 types of wives.
They include the:
• Complaining wife
• Misguided wife
• Committed wife
Read the following descriptions to figure out which category you fit into.
The complaining wife tends to focus on the bad stuff in her marriage. She will talk to whomever will listen to her vent about her problems. This type of woman is susceptible to infidelity because she is capable of attaching herself to her listener.
Because she’s so focused on the faults of her husband, she refuses to deal with her own issues. It’s never her, but her husband is always the problem and she’s always the victim. She nags and fusses with and about her husband, but she refuses to do anything to change herself.
The misguided wife, on the other hand recognizes that she needs to change and she actually does seek help… but in all the wrong places!
Her resources are bitter girlfriends, reality TV shows about housewives, and trashy novels that paint an unrealistic picture of what a good man should be.
The misguided wife’s activities are similar to a person who knows they need to go grocery shopping to get food for a balanced meal. But instead of taking the time and effort of making a shopping list, and clipping coupons, she instead goes to the bathroom, kneels down, and sticks her head into the toilet hoping to find her nutritious balanced meal there.
This sounds absurd, but the misguided wife really doesn’t want to change. She’s just going to the wrong resources hoping her husband will notice so HE can change. And while she knows she does have issues, she refuses to deal with them because after all, her husband has more issues than her.
The committed wife is unique and rare. The committed wife has many of the same marriage problems as the complaining wife and the misguided wife, but her approach to these problems is very different.
She loves, honors, and respects her husband despite his attitude.
While the committed wife gets frustrated and is often tempted to complain, in most cases she doesn’t. She’s learned to replace her negative thoughts with positive ones. She does this by focusing on the good areas of her marriage and her husband.
And she recognizes that both she and her husband have issues, but instead of trying to fix her husband, she seeks out proper resources by connecting with sensible, objective girlfriends who have her best interest. These girlfriends also hold her accountable by telling her where she can improve. Also the committed wife seeks out good resources like books, marriage conferences, and helpful websites. The committed wife is happy on a consistent basis because she refuses to let life, her husband, or her circumstances prevent her from becoming a great wife.
Marriage requires work on both parts, but as a wife you’re only responsible for what you can do. The way to handle marriage is based on your approach and the type of wife you are. There are three types of wives: the complaining wife, the misguided wife, and the committed wife. Each one approaches marriage differently.
In most cases, the complaining and misguided wives will walk down the road to marriage destruction and ultimately divorce if they refuse to change their approaches to marriage. But the committed wife will maintain a stronger, healthier, spicier marriage with a husband who celebrates her. The committed wife also takes responsibility for her actions and takes action to get help.
Which type of wife are you?